I'm just the Oven... Totally their Bun!!

There has been a little confusion as to who this baby will belong to genetically. Some people thought that Jon and I were having a baby and giving it to Angie and Nate and some thought that we were going to make a baby that was half mine and half Nates! EWE! No no no no!

I am going to be what's called a gestational carrier. Which means they are going to take some eggs from Angies ovaries and they are going to take Nates sperm and make embryos in a petri dish. Then they are going to take something that looks like turkey baster and squirt em on up there and hopefully one of them will attach!

So as weird as it may sound, this baby will completely be my cousin. It will not have any of my genes at all and I will not have any parental rights.

So far...So good!

I said before that this process began in March and this is what we've done so far. Angie started seeing an infertility doctor in Minneapolis a while ago and in March I had to send him my medical records. I sent a request to Vanderbilt, where I had my 2 children, to have them fax her doctor my records. At first the Vanderbilt Medical Records office only sent my hospital stay records. It may have been my fault. I might have missed the little box I was supposed to check to have them send my clinic records too but since Vanderbilts administrative staff pretty much sucks I'm going to blame it on them! 

On my second attempt to have my medical records sent I went down to the office in person with my mom to make sure they were all sent correctly this time. I'm about to tell you why I think Vanderbilts administrative staff sucks. My mom and I were waiting at the front desk for some help and there were two women sitting having a personal conversation about how one of them had a hysterectomy. They must of been in this conversation for about 10 minutes knowing we were there waiting on them. When they finally finished the conversation, the lady who was sitting closest to me looked at me and then walked away and didn't come back!! I was like "What the hell"! Another staff worker saw what happened and came up to me and said "I knew that was going to happen"! He proceeded to help me and faxed my medical records back to Angies doctor and this time they all made it there. 

Unfortunately, the next week Angie got a call from the doctors nurse saying that there was something in my medical records that disqualified me as a potential surrogate. I didn't find out till a couple of days later when my grandma called my mom and told her what happened and then my mom called me. Immediately I called them to see what it was that disqualified me and the nurse said that it was because of an anxiety attack I had 2 years ago that I was written down as treated for. Well, that is true. I had an anxiety attack 2 years ago and it was bad and would not want to go through it again and the doctor gave me a prescription for it but I never took it. I do not like to have to depend on prescriptions everyday. So I dealt with it the best way I could until it naturally went away on its own. Since then I have been as healthy as a horse! 

Still the doctor did not want to accept that. He refused to get to know the situation and said that what he saw on paper was enough to decline me. 

About a week later Angie found another doctor at a different infertility clinic and told him our situation and explained why I was denied by the other doctor. He said that he and that other doctor have a completely different view  on things and he said that as long as I am not being treated anymore then we will be ok. So once again I have sent my medical records to the new doctor. I got a call from his nurse about 2 weeks ago saying that she was going to mail me some paper work for both Jon, my husband, and I to fill out and send back. She also sent some paper work for my O.B. to fill out and send back to them. So my next step is to make an appointment with my doctor for an exam and she will fill out the paper work and send it back to them.

My appointment is on Thursday, June 10th  next week. Stay tuned!!

 

Introduction

Hello all! My name is Tiffany and I am about to experience something very unique and special. I have recently decided to become a surrogate for my aunt. I've decided to write this blog hoping it would be useful to someone else who is trying to make the decision on wether or not to be a surrogate. When I first started thinking about it, I looked and looked for a blog or something that would give me some information on someone's personal experience as a carrier. What did I find? NOTHING! I hope this will be as helpful to someone as is it fulfilling for me and beneficial for my aunt.

Now a little about me....

I'm 27. I've been married for 7 years and have 2 small kids. My daughter Nevaeh is 4 and my son Alex is 11 months. My family and I live in Nashville. My husband is a web programmer and I stay at home with my kids.

When I first started telling people I was going to be a carrier for my aunt they asked me how old she was thinking she was around the same age as my mom. Well, no, she is not in her 50's! Angie is 35. She lives in Minnesota with her husband Nate. She works at home as a nutritionist.

She needs me as her surrogate because in her early 20's she had cancer. I was young when she was sick so I don't know all the details but it ultimately resulted in her not being able to carry her own children.

We found this out about a year ago which is when I started thinking about doing this for her. It took me about 2 or 3 months to do my research and think about it before I offered to carry for her.  I volunteered to be her surrogate in the fall of last year and we started the process a couple of months ago in March.